Here I am, bitching again. I do that a lot, it seems. But oh well.
My MIL emailed last night:
Hi. We are planning to go home in the morning. There is a parade in Standish and we want to get through there before it starts. We will stop in if you are home. If you are planning to go somewhere, don't stay home for us.
So. Silly me, I assumed that they would be here. You know, in the MORNING. I wrote back and said that I would be home in the morning but at 2:30 the kids and I were going somewhere. I added that Kent would be home after that. I didn't hear back.
So Riley knew they were coming today. He woke up early, so excited. Every time he heard a car go by he would jump up, "Is that Grammie Alta?!" Then his little face would fall whenever I said "no."
At fucking 12:40, she calls. I was so pissed off, seriously. She asks if she can COME GET RILEY and take him to the park. She had been at Lee & Jenn's all morning. I asked Riley if he wanted to go to the park. He said he did so I told her okay. She bloody knew I had somewhere to be at 2:30. I (foolishly) thought that she would have him home by then. HA! At 2:23 she called and luckily (for her) Kent answered. She said, "Oh does Riley have somewhere to be at 2:30?" He said "yeah" and she told him, "Oh well we just got to McDonald's, I ordered him a Happy Meal." Kent (knowing I wanted to know exactly what was said) replied, "Oh.. you got him a Happy Meal?" I was SO ANGRY when I heard that. I got Aislyn ready and just said, "I'm already late so just forget it." Poor Kent. He knew how upset I was.
So after I left Kent sat around and waited. They brought Riley back around 3:30. Kent asked them why they went to Lee & Jenn's first and they just said, "Oh I don't know." First of all, Lee & Jenn didn't even know that my M&FIL were going to be in town. Second, L&J were still SLEEPING when my M&FIL got to their house. And during that time, my little boy was crestfallen every. single. time. a car went by! What the HELL is wrong with those people? They fucking KNEW that I was expecting them and that I had somewhere to be.
Next... my MIL hasn't even mentioned to Chris about the 4th of July yet. That really makes me angry too, although I'm not surprised. She said she'd "ask him tonight." Whatever you say. Gah. We told her weeks ago what the plan was. She's had AMPLE time to mention it to Chris, so that he could make plans to be somewhere else. Now, it's only a couple days before the 3rd (which is the day we were planning on going up) and she really thinks he can make plans to be elsewhere. If she calls and tells us that we can't stay the night - we are NOT going.
Kent and I have talked about it and we're sick of bending over backwards for them. They (obviously) don't give a crap about what we want. They spend a week with Sean and Tracy and then (when Riley is expecting them) they go to Lee & Jenn's first? Then they come with gifts and expect everything to be fine. Maybe they can buy other peoples' affection but not mine. How my in-laws managed to end up with a son as great as Kent, I will never understand.
If this 4th of July trip falls through then I am DONE trying. I do all the work, trying to get people together and things. It's not even my family! If Kent doesn't care about seeing his parents, then I don't care either. I'm so tired of seeing Riley get disappointed.
Grr... and when they came to pick Riley up to take him to the park, they didn't even talk to me! My MIL got out, ran over and got Riley & took him to the car. I didn't even get to say GOODBYE to my own son! To his credit, my FIL did come say hi to me and to Aislyn. My MIL didn't even look at Aislyn. I hate that she favors Riley over Aishy so much. It really bugs me.
Also. They call her "the baby." They do NOT like her name. I just found that out, I hadn't even realized. (Kent told me today.) They do the same thing to Xander. They need to blinking GET OVER IT because those are their names and I'm guessing it's not going to change anytime soon. When she is5, are they still going to refer to her as "the baby" or will it be "the kid" after that?
I hate that I'm wasting so much energy on them. I just. I want a normal family. Is that too much to ask? With brothers and sisters-in-law that like each other. With parents that act like parents and grandparents who keep their promises? My grandmother, for all her faults, NEVER broke a promise to me. Never, not once. If she said she would do something with/for me, she put everything else aside and DID IT. Kent's parents can be so selfish sometimes.
Kent said that his Dad was sulking when they left. (Apparently Kent let them now how disappointed/aggravated he was.) So Shirley was moping, "I'm sorry. I ruin everything." (He's like an angsty teenager, it's sickens me! One time... not today but awhile ago.. he actually said - with Riley in earshot - "I should just shoot myself and make everyone happy.") So Kent (always the peacemaker!) said, "Don't worry about it, I'm over it already." (Which was a lie.) His Dad's response? "It will take me a couple days to get over it." Umm what? Kent told him, "Well, be over it by the fourth." Hahaha. I'm actually quite proud of Kent. He's never taken a stand against his parents before. I think he's finally had enough of their BS too.
We're probably going out to my grandparents' camp for the fourth now. Which is fine with me. Aislyn can go on a boatride for her first 4th, just like Riley. :)
12:10 am - 01 July 2007
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